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Girl's beating girl's - what's wrong here?

Submitted by Em on April 25, 2008 - 6:03pm.
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The latest incident in Florida, where a group of teenage girls attacked and beat a fellow class,ate and video taped it to put it on Myspace saddened me greatly. Girl's beating up other girl's. Just the thought of that really bothers me. Women physically overpowering another woman, and often, as I found out from a number of teenage girls (and boys) who work with me the fight is about a guy who both girls are interested in or something along those lines.

I never experienced girl's at my high school actually physically fighting with each other, although sadly we had a whole lot of verbal bashing and rumors going on, which really is no better.

To me, this all screams male domination. Girl's feeling as though they have to almost win a guy by physically beating another girl, concerns me greatly. It divides us more, gives men more control, and basically men are having women do all the dirty work for them so they come out looking innocent. At least, thats how I see it. I feel that girls who are involved in this are really traveling along a dangerous road toward abusive relationships with these guys. When a teenage girl basically gets herself beaten up in order to say "hey I like you, look at me" to a guy at school, what is that telling the guy? What does that say about a guy who would actually accept that kind of behavior, and enjoy it?

I had a conversation with a 14 year old I work with about all of this, and my thoughts on it, trying to at least get through to her what these kids are doing to each other is really dangerous and not empowering women. What worried me was that she really couldn't see another way around it, she didn't agree with what I was saying, in fact she thought the exact opposite, that this shows how tough these girls are and that they wont put up with anything. I very much disagree.

So I would be very interested to hear any of your opinions on this, as it is something that is bothering me greatly, and seems to be so common here in Vancouver.

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This type of behavior was

Submitted by Brooke on April 28, 2008 - 5:16pm.

This type of behavior was really common when I went to high school. I don't get it, but I guess it's easier to blame the other girl, then blame the guy. I don't get why a guy would tolerate this kind of behavior either or what it means when he picked one girl over the other.

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My thoughts

Submitted by Lawrence_33 on June 14, 2008 - 11:12am.

Your title asked the question "Girl's beating girl's - what's wrong here?" and I believe you have put apostrophes where they should not be.

Regarding this article, I do have some thoughts.

-Conflict is evolutionary. Those who, in the past, did not compete and lost out (on mates) may not have replicated. Conflict ensures (on a genetic level) that the strong survive. Is it fair? HELL no. Is it beneficial? Possibly. Can we change it? Only by allowing pacifists to replicate and banning people who compete from replicating.

-Most men and certainly most boys are socially retarded. They do not understand women, nor do they have a particularly intelligent grasp on social situations either. This article professes violence, which is terrible indeed. But I also got the impression that you feel it's men's fault that these women are fighting. Clearly, men's responsibility lies only in existing and the specific men or boys in question being desireable. In summary: The man has done nothing. You're trying to blame the man for an action perpetrated by a woman. The man has not commanded her. She has commanded herself.

-Sometimes, kids need to learn their own damn lessons.

-Don't you think men fight too? Over women, sometimes? I see no mention in your article about violence in general. I *somehow* got the impression feminists cared about men's rights too. After all - to gain equality you must first define what equality is and then its components.

Thanks for reading. I will respond to and appreciate cogent arguments. Rants will go ignored and looked down upon.

Lawrence

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more BULLCRAP!

Submitted by ЖБЌЏИДϸ on August 28, 2008 - 6:59pm.

You want the same rights as males, than this should be no suprise to you, what do you just expect all females to be friends and shit, world freaking peace. Not gonna happen babe. This is survival of the fittest and we are the animals participating.

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re: more BULLCRAP

Submitted by doctressjulia on August 28, 2008 - 7:37pm.

Hey, moron: what the HELL does having the same rights as "males" have to do with people beating the crap out of each other?? I think it is surprising and sad that young women seem to be lowering themselves to the sort of behaviour we usually expect from BOYS! Har! And, um, hey: the word "BABE" is condescending. But that's why you used it, right? Did your daddy teach you that? Real classy. Ass.

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No actually, I use babe all

Submitted by ЖБЌЏИДϸ on August 28, 2008 - 10:33pm.

No actually, I use babe all the time.

I treat girls with respect unless they are freaking female dominist psychos like some people here.

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