pornography

At Scarleteen I routinely hear from young women who are feeling insecure about their boyfriend's use of porn. For me, what stands out about these women is the pressure they feel to satisfy every one of their partners sexual needs. That pressure appears to be internal - their partners are described as quite comfortable with an independent sexuality, e.g. their use of porn and masturbation. I've always thought of these women as unnecessarily jealous, making a big deal out of something relatively minor. It's not like they were taking a feminist stand against porn -- they just didn't want their partners using it.

This is a pretty disconcerting entry regarding pornography and rape. Pass it up if you know it's not for you.

I am one of those who has no problem with the creation of images, videos, or stories about human sexuality with the intention of inspiring arousal. That inherent commonality in all pornography/erotica does not, in and of itself, strike any negative moral chords with me.

What can cause me to bare my fangs, however, is the sort of material one may encounter in the vast world of pornography. I think that any woman who has ever typed an X-rated search in Google will know how difficult it is to find any “erotic” material from which a woman can derive any pleasure, as most of the stuff out there is vapid, misogynistic crap that just barely borders on violence.

This past weekend, I found something that crossed the line… and worse.